Humm, yeah, it’s been a lot longer than I expected, but also, I have a feeling that I’m not alone experiencing time differently this year, right?…
Writing to me is something that I can’t just force it though. Hence why I would probably not be a successful blogger, book writer, etc. I do have enough ideas and imagination, that’s not the issue at all. The problem is, nowadays I don’t have the time I once did, to just sit in a corner quick and start jotting down whatever came to mind, I’m living one task to the next, and always overwhelming myself to oblivion finding all sorts of projects on top of my daily duties and chores to distract… so yes, I haven’t been making time for it.
Truth is, the past few months have been extremely intense and went by like a blink of an eye, I started writing this post several times, but had to stop for some reason and quite frankly, most times I’d get the line of thinking and inspiration while doing something like driving, or running errands, and then of course, I’d lose the thought.
So, when I say last few months have been intense, it doesn’t mean they were bad, actually I haven’t felt this good in a long while, and in the face of everything that has changed in my life, (and in the world really) I wanted to make a post to talk about gratitude. Yes! How I am grateful for this year, including all the twists and turns!
What?! Exactly! I literally feel like I finally fell off my bike and scraped my knees enough, but now I can ride without training wheels! That’s the paradigm I choose rather than “how many times do I have to make the same mistake…” Since I (fully admit) had to repeat some old patterns once again, (some risky and stupid or insane ones, some might say) but I can finally say I feel free, and that’s priceless!
I know this may not be making much sense still, and I honestly don’t feel like I need to give all the details here, after all, I’m not trying to put anyone to sleep or talk about me and my shit show… The point is to share that Gratitude is where is at! A couple years ago, I watched Shawn Achor speak, he is so pragmatic, logical, and scientific that he grabbed my attention, I took notes, and I decided I would give his method a try. If you don’t know his work, look it up, but I remember that despite all the academic titles he holds, he calls himself a “happiness researcher”, according to him, the happier you are, the more successful you’ll be. And of course, for people like me (back then at least), you’ll go “Right?! But I can’t be happy while I still have (insert your laundry list of problems here)”, I know, I challenged too.
But according to Shawn, you have to be happy First, and for that you need to take a step back, look around and begin by simply looking at all that you already Have, next, you Thank you, your spouse, mother, God, the universe, your boss… whomever, but you need to appreciate ALL YOU HAVE, rather than focusing on what you lack! How you start? For 21 days write it down 3 things you’re thankful for. Yes, we all know takes 21 days for our brain to create a new habit, and finding 3 things to be grateful for is much easier than starting a diet, finding the combinations to the lotto ticket, complain about anything and everything, feel shitty about it and repeat… I mean, just saying…
There’s a whole lot more to that and I’m not even going to go into the science and spiritual side of things, because guess what? The bible, Jesus, Buddha, Abraham Hicks, Newton, Tesla, Einstein…. all at some point agree and will tell you the same too. I have been down those rabbit holes myself many times and long enough to affirm…
So my point here is – This year alone has been tough enough (not for me to be honest) but yes, it has been challenging, lots of changes, lots happening, we all are being smacked in the face with nothing more than the notion that WE ARE NOT IN CONTROL, of nothing besides, our own thoughts, actions and reactions, so might as well focus on that. Yes, hardships happen, but come on, don’t we feel so much greater conquering something we fought for? A hard workout, pounds lost, that Disney trip after a whole year of cooking at home, that promotion at work after having worked your butt off, a hug from your child after celebrating their birthday… I can go on and on, but you get the gist, right?
Next week is Thanksgiving, and while I don’t want to get into any specifics around what this year’s celebration will look like, because honestly, it doesn’t matter. What matters is that each of us can be thankful for what we HAVE vs what we DON’T. When we get to that point, we can begin to accept people and our differences. I am beyond grateful for all I have, all that endured and specially the hardships as they have and continue to mold me and guide me. So I hope that if you made it to this point and have not tried yet, that you do consider trying some gratitude, I promise you’ll feel better and it may just cause a ripple effect that you may actually never regret and might never want to step out of…. So, thank you for reading, and for being in my life!
Peace and love ❤